Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell introduced the concept of love languages in the book The Five Love Languages and later in The Five Love Languages of Children. They said some people love through physical touch, others through words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, or quality time.
It’s common to have different love languages within a family and it can be tricky to navigate. However, once you do learn your child’s love language, it can make all the difference in your relationship and their happiness.
It is essential for all children to have their emotional needs met in order to feel safe, happy, fulfilled, and secure. And in order to do this, we need to be aware of how children receive love.
Every child gives and receives love in their own unique and special way, what Gary Chapman terms “Love Languages”. Think of each of your children as having a “Love Tank”, much like the gas tank in a car. Each time you speak your child’s love language to him or her, you are making a deposit in their love tank, and giving them emotional strength that fuels them through the day. My family refers to filling our cup or most recently my son came home from school having learnt about filling his happiness bucket!
Dr. Chapman describes 5 different ways children speak and understand love:
Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, and Acts of Service.
Remember that each child, even siblings, may have different love languages. Not only that but some children may respond to multiple love languages. Pay close attention to how your child responds to each love language to determine what love language best meets their emotional needs.
Below are some examples of how you can meet these love languages needs.
What is your child’s love language?