How To Create a Cosy Calm Corner for Children

FROM TIME-OUTS TO TIME-INS

When children feel powerful, safe, and connected, they learn much more easily than when they are feeling fear or shame. If you have used time-outs in the past, start your time-in journey by saying GOODBYE to time-outs with your children in a memorable, concrete, and playful way.

Marking your transition encourages children to trust in your shift away from punishment and to take ownership of time-ins, increasing their intrinsic motivation to embrace the new approach. The more silly and memorable the goodbye ritual is, the better! 

WHAT IS A TIME-IN?

Time-ins help children learn how to manage their feelings in a safe space, practicing social and emotional skills when they are calm so they can effectively use them when they are not. Time-ins reinforce attachment and connection, reinforcing skills children will have and use for a lifetime including self-awareness, empathy, conflict resolution, and problem-solving.

Dr. Siegel, clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and executive director of the Mindsight Institute, says, “Having kids reflect on and talk about their emotions, what we are calling a time-in, has been demonstrated in a wide range of studies to support the important development of emotional understanding. We encourage parents to comfort and soothe and connect with their children during times of distress, and to reflect afterward on their inner experience with reflective dialogue, rather than punitively isolating them in a moment of anger and without any opportunity for reflection and connection.”

Generation Mindful’s Time-In ToolKit gives families everything they need in one place to ditch time-outs  --- posters, cards, stickers, social-emotional learning activities, videos, step-by-step instructions, curriculum, and a free online community to hold your hand through it all.

 

Time-Outs

Time-Ins

You are in trouble for your thoughts, emotions, words, actions

You are having trouble with your thoughts, emotions, words, actions

You are being punished for being bad

You are having a learning moment where you can practice new skills

Children focus on how unfair it is that they are in a time-out more than their behavior

Children reflect on what happened, and how they are feeling.

Fuels a child’s anger and may lead to sneaking and lying

Builds a child’s brain and leads to learning

Children feel angry or hurt by the person who puts them in a time-out

Children feel closer to themselves and others after a time-i

 

Kids Emotional Regulation with The Time-In ToolKit!

✓ Tame tantrums through co-regulation

✓ Raise caring and confident kids

✓ Build social & emotional intelligence

✓ Empower kids to "Name It, Feel It, Heal It"

The Time-In Toolkit creates a safe space (or Calming Corner) for children and their caregivers to play, learn, and grow their social-emotional skills with playful, evidence-based games and activites.

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