Raising a child can be a daunting task that makes you rethink your principles and beliefs and instill doubts as to whether you are doing it right. Though each parent will have their own style, there are certain principles between parent and child that will help them grow in a positive environment.
There are many principles and practices that contribute to Positive Parenting. Here are my top 5!
At the end of the day, positive parenting is really about approaching your kids with love, empathy, and kindness… rather than using an authoritarian or punitive approach to enforce rules which leads to a power struggle.
1. Regulate Your Own Emotions
Your child’s brain isn’t fully developed to the point of being able to handle complex reasoning and judgment, yours is.
Be the calm, patient emotionally generous person that your child needs you to be. Model the type of decision making, empathy, and anger management skills you want your child to learn.
This will begin to teach children how to regulate their own emotions.
2. Treat Children With Respect
Your kids are little humans. They deserve the same care and respect as you’d afford any other human being.
Studies show that children whose parents treat them in a loving, nurturing way grow a larger hippocampus, the part of the brain that promotes better learning, memory, and stress response.
3. Build A Strong Connection With Your Child
Positive parenting is strongly based on the attachment bond theory which basically says that the bond formed between kids and their primary caregivers affects their resilience, ability to regulate emotions, and future relationships. Big stuff!
Children who don’t form secure attachments early in life often exhibit behavioral problems later on.
4. Invest in Daily One-On-One Time
One of the very best things you can do to improve your child’s behavior is spending quality one-on-one time with them.
This gives children the positive attention and emotional connection they’re hard-wired to need.
5. Practice Positive Behaviour strategies
Punishment and discipline are NOT the same thing.
The goal of punishment is to influence behavior by making a child suffer enough that they avoid a particular action in the future. There’s really no room for punishment in positive parenting.
On the other hand, positive discipline/behaviour management seeks to fix mistakes by finding new solutions and learning new ways of doing things.