When it comes to teaching emotional literacy Grow Happy has 3 Dispositions that are key.
- CALM - Regulate Your Own Emotions
Children learn to manage their emotions when their parents model how it's done. When Parents and Teachers have the knowledge and tools to self-regulate they can then foster co-regulation with their children and grow emotionally literate and resilient children. Our energy and behaviour has a direct effect on our children and we must be aware and take charge of our own emotions. Sometimes when there is a bit of work to do here we call this ‘reparenting’ ourselves. Noticing our own triggers and learning to manage these.
2. CONNECT - Spend Time with you Child
From tantrums to texting, the secret of happy parenting is a close relationship with your child. Without that connection, we have little influence (”My children won’t listen!”) and parenting becomes exhausting. Time, Understanding and validating children’s emotions is key! Children are connection seekers and many behaviours we see are simply a lack of connection, coaching or invalidation of emotions.
3. COACH - Instead of Control
Coach, instead of trying to control, so your child wants to cooperate with you. Sure, you need to set limits—but if you set them with empathy and respect, you’ll find your child is much more likely to comply. We need to coach ourselves as parents to know how to intentionally teach emotional literacy to children.
Grow Happy’s Course ‘Calm Connected Children’ Launches in June! It is a self-paced course that focuses on the 3 C’s of Positive Parenting along scripts to improve the language we use when coaching children about emotional literacy. Grab our FREE Emotions Guide and you will go on the list to be notified upon launch along with a load of other tips and tools on positive parenting and emotional literacy.